Eh, to me when feminists bring up patriarchy in response to male suffering, it's more along the lines of "we acknowledge that men suffer gendered issues in society, but the toxic gender expectations that cause this are linked to misogyny and have been/are upheld by ideals of masculinity established by men; therefore, dismantling patriarchy will help men along with women". Maybe I've just been lucky and been mostly in contact with the reasonable ones, I'unno.