Ok, tell you what. I'm going to sleep on this and do some more research, if anything my mind can always be changed about something, I just feel a bit hurt right now and not really thinking rationally.
I will say that I still don't like SJWs, BLM, and the notion of "white privilege" and "white supremacy" That hurts me because deep in my heart I have no hatred for other races yet I am being attacked by these extremists for my skin color. I have been taught that we should be equal and I believe in that whole heartedly.
You may not have hatred, but scientist have found that almost everyone has very strong unconscious racism without knowing it.
http://www.motherjones.com/environment/2014/05/inquiring-minds-david-amodio-your-brain-on-racismYou can be a racist without openly hating anyone. Me too, I can easily think of times when I've acted on unconscious racism and didn't realize it until later.
I actual want to say something about Morality here: my view is that if you are certain that you aren't racist, that you are kindhearted, that you are a good person to the point where you take offense and outrage at the idea you might not be, that kind of thinking makes you a bad person.
I do not believe in God, but I actually do think that Christians are right about some of their basic ideas about morality: we are all sinners. Pride is the root of most sin. And being a good person is about seeking redemption.
One of my favorite books ever, Evil by Roy Baumeister a book on the psychology of why people do evil things, has this line that really stuck with me. (paraphrasing a bit) "Psychologist gathered data to find what were the different categories of pathologically violent people. But when you use modern statistical methods it turns out there aren't different categories, just one (with a few rare exceptions): The Fragile Narcissist."
Now I am not accusing you of being pathologically violent, or of being mentally ill. But Fragile Narcissism can still show up in normal people, and it makes them into bad people. The certainty that you are good and kind and being unable to handle the idea that you aren't, that stops you from being able to see it if you are in the wrong. It stops you from trying to improve yourself. It justifies cruelty because if you are good then what you've done can't be bad.
Being a good person is about having the humility to admit you aren't perfect. That you aren't a good person. But that you will put in the work to be better.
The Trump movement strikes me as entirely based on Fragile Narcissism. This anger over being thought of as racist seems a very common theme. It's all about "We know we're the greatest. The problem is everyone else's fault. We should stop apologizing, stop examining our own actions. How dare they think we are wrong, that we are flawed. We are justified in doing cruel things like banning refugees because we are good and they are bad because they don't think we are good." That that pitch is always tempting, as are it's many equivalents on the political left. But whenever you hear that remember, that's Satan speaking. That is the path to the darkside. And it will always end in tears.