I don't think his intentions were entirely pure by the way he called her a bitch at the end. I think if he did just intend it as a passing compliment, he would've apologized when she told him to back the fuck off and left it at that.
That entirely depends on the person, a lot of men I know get annoyed quite quickly at having some inconsequential thing turned on them like a knife. Not everyone capitulates on a moment's notice when they don't see themselves doing anything wrong.
Then, guys, if you're so afraid of that happening, don't talk to women you don't know. I mean, I don't know how you were raised, but I was always told not to talk to strangers. If you take that chance, be prepared for what you get. Likewise, if a girl doesn't want to talk to you, get over it and don't call her sexist slurs.
We're not afraid of it, and it's more than not wanting to talk to us. If someone ignores me when I compliment them, I get on with my day. If someone tells me to shut the fuck up for complementing them, I'd be annoyed no matter who it was. That goes for guys and girls equally, and even my idols. If you don't want to talk to someone or don't like them talking to you, then ignore them. Don't scream at them. Additionally, everyone's a stranger at first. If anyone ever completely listened to that advice, they'd be a hikikomori.
Totally gonna just butt in here, but that whole "stop redefining racism" spiel annoys the crap out of me. You need to understand that different social groups define terms differently (which isn't something new, that's as old as language itself). For many people of color and people who pursue an academic discourse on race, racism means institutionalized racism which means white supremacy/the social history of people of color. It has a history of social context related to colonialism. And it's okay for these people to define it as such because to them it make sense. Ethnic violence and tensions have existed long before colonialism and existed virtually everywhere that wasn't a very isolated inhabited island. And these ethnic tensions do contribute to our understanding of race and racism, but again for many people the understanding of racism is instead based of European colonialism.
Now some people might say "well, the dictionary definition". Well the dictionary only gives a very preliminary examination of racism. There are other definitions and analysis of racism. You do not have to accept those definition (in the same way people of color do not have to accept the dictionary's definition), but I personally think it would be very helpful if more people understood that other people operate under different contexts of race.
I'm not going to defend that particular tumblr post because it's so painfully simplistic, but it just irks me when people don't try to see what people of color sees. For me, our definition racism just means we see our discrimination from a different social and historical context. That isn't to say that racial discrimination doesn't happen white people, nor does it say that discrimination that white people occasionally face isn't negative. Saying X is different from Y doesn't take away from the negativity of X. All it says is X is different from Y. That's all that's being said here, that the context of discrimination that people of color face is different from the discrimination that white people face, and for that reason many people of color view racism as white supremacy/colonialism. And again, you don't have to accept that but it is just so much more helpful in my opinion if you understood that is people of color is coming from.
(to be fair, they're the only Asian country that's first world, has a sane-ish government, isn't big on the "cruel and unusual punishment" and tends to be the source of innovation, so they do have a bit of a good reason for their ego).
That in no way excuses all the fucked up shit they did to other Asians. They still haven't recognized that they sent hundreds of Thais to their death building a train to India, that they killed Filipinos, that they massacred Chinese, that they raped Koreans. Heck, they weren't all that friendly to the indigenous Ainus or the Zianichi Koreans that have been in Japan as far back as the unification of Korea under the Silla Kingdom. And are you forgetting that South Korea, Taiwan, Hong Kong, Macau, and Singapore are pretty much also sources of economic development and innovations? You're painting the rest of East/Southeast Asia as some type of backward monolith. Asia has it's problems for sure, but it's pretty much as complex as the West.
If you're going to ask why I decided to come back for this post, just shoot me a PM. If not all I can say is asshole mod is the reason and if you get that then you probably can guess why I'm back.
I'll respond to the part directly targeted at me, first. I don't think it makes what Japan has done okay. However, you ignored the fact that I brought up more than development or innovation. In Singapore, you can get death for unlawful discharge of a firearm, even if nobody is injured. You can also get it for 500 grams of pot. Anyone who is found guilty of making morphine, cocaine, heroin or meth gets a MANDATORY death penalty. It's illegal to be gay in Singapore, too. Chewing gum is also illegal, as is oral sex unless as foreplay. Bribery is so common in South Korea that traffic police must report all money they make off of it. Hong Kong might be largely autonomous, but they are still owned by China. Taiwan is still ruled by China, and it's not going to change because nobody has the balls to tell China off. Let's face it, Japan is just the least ass-backwards, least horrible nation in Asia.
As for the other part, institutionalize racism comes in many more forms than just white-on-POC. The only reason it seems it doesn't is because we're living in America. In the rest of this great, big shitty planet, it's often people who Americans would consider the same race. For example, the Hutus and Tutsis. To see it otherwise, unless talking about ONLY America, is wrong. Not a different viewpoint that is equal. Wrong. Incorrect. Historically and socially uninformed.