If we just focus on Abortion, I was taught this pertaining to certain circumstances.
Mother's Life: It is forgivable to kill the child if the mother is at risk. Completely acceptable. Since if the mother dies due to the pregnancy, the child is lost anyways.
Rape: Is a difficult time for the mother. Emotionally its understandable to abort and while its preferred to keep the child, since the sins of the father should not reflect upon the child, it is emotionally rough. Can be accepted. Also applies to children and you know.
Societal/Financial: It is impossible for the mother to carry the child to term due to the loss of income or the social shunning. This can be accepted because the pain caused is too great. As long as forgiveness is sought. Also why it is important not to shun or hurt anyone who is pregnant, but instead accept them.
If pro-life isn't going to be anti-women, it has to look out for pregnant mothers, adopted children, make exceptions for reasonable reasons, provide maternity leave, and not be cognitively dissonant.
Reminds me of a discussion in my 8th grade class (Pro-Life Democrat teacher who applied the philosophy I listed at the OP.) when the man killed the abortion doctor. Back in the day. Some people thought it was 'just' because he had killed people but could not give a good reason WHY when pressed by my teacher. Who was trying to impress upon us "What makes it right for us to judge death upon anyone? Him killing that doctor doesn't save any lives and removes the chance the doctor can repent." I know I basically thought "What makes that man less sacred than the babies he killed? Killing one person doesn't bring back another."
I feel like we need a new term for these "Pro-Life" people because holy shit, they are not pro-life.