I was not aware that the stock phrase "Bitch, you'd best be joking" was considered flaming. Is it also flaming if I say someone is bitching, or being a bitch?
I don't know. I know that we have SEEN no redeeming features. And thus it is ridiculous to expect people to treat him sympathetically based on something that MIGHT be true, but runs counter to what they have observed. I've been sticking with the storytelling analogy* because I wanted to show how ridiculous I think the whole complaint is. In a work of fiction, a villain is a character designed to have relatable motives & drive the plot. No one thinks he's a villain. They think he's an asshole.
Also important, that this ONE person is not sympathetic as far as can be reasonably judged, does not mean it is impossible to sympathize with the death of someone who was a bully. Consequently, some people who said things like "I won't cry for the shitstain" might have other ways to characterize him, if they find more out about him. But simply the principle that he "can't be as bad as you're making it seem"? Nah, that's not very convincing.
With that said, I don't think I can be any more concise on this point & think that I, for one, have easily said everything I needed to, & probably then some.
*="Flawed tragic hero" being an example of this.