off the bat let’s clarify some things: i’m not demisexual. i have a very healthy sexual appetite and often feel sexually attracted to people i don’t know. this is a thing that happens to people usually! you don’t need to know someone in order to find them hot or want to have sex with them! one night stands happen!
demisexual people are those who LITERALLY DO NOT FEEL SEXUAL ATTRACTION UNLESS THERE IS A RELATIONSHIP ALREADY THERE.
there is no “”“”soul-bonding”“”” and if you think demisexuals believe they’re some kind of allmighty aura-manipulating psyvamps, you’re an idiot. they simply do not feel or develop sexual attraction, which is FINDING SOMEONE ATTRACTIVE PHYSICALLY AND WANTING TO SLEEP WITH THEM, until they are close.
AGAIN, you anti-demi people are confusing romantic and sexual attraction. generally people develop ROMANTIC feelings after becoming friends. when you want to date someone and be intimate with them, which is NOT necessarily sex. romantic =/= sexual attraction.
what you’re confusing for “healthy relationships” is literally two people being romantically attracted to one another. you don’t have to be sexually attracted to someone in order to be romantically attracted to them and vice versa.
and “”“special snowflake”“”” is such a fucking dumb term used the absolute death and people who use it sound absolutely ridiculous.
and who the fuck cares if people want to feel special, it literally doesn’t affect you AT. ALL. oh, god, how hoooorrible someone on the INTERNET wants to feel SPECIAL how DARE they want to feel a little special. i am a whiny pissbaby who likes to make everyone feel as shitty as me because i cant live in a world where people are HAPPY and feel SPECIAL
Posting this here mainly for the last paragraph. It just really rubs me the wrong way. As people have said, there's a difference between telling people they're unique as people, and telling people they're super special for mundane reasons. And the "soulbonding" thing was in response about how the actual creator of "demisexuality" was a 15 year old girl who was a "soulbonder".
Also, genuine question, when does something become a sexuality instead of a fetish?
