I've seen supporters say the Bechdel test works more for mapping trends in Hollywood films, rather than deciding if an individual movie is "feminist" or not. The problem comes from tumblrinas who've decided to use it as a litmus for the latter, and deride individual movies for not "being feminist enough because of this one criteria". I remember when Pacific Rim came out, and there was a huge stink going around tumblr because "tumblr feminists" were saying it wasn't a feminist movie because the only two female leads didn't talk to each other or any other women, while the movie's defenders pointed out how one female lead was written better than many other movie women, including some that passed the Bechdel test.
I remember one post by a Bechdel supporter who ended their rant with a really condescending message to people defending Pacific Rim, and the way I read it, it had the unfortunate implication that my accomplishments as a woman mean jack shit if I never speak to another woman about how much I love tacos (i.e. conversing with another woman about something other than men). That no, I don't need validation from men either directly or by association in order to be a meaningful person, but I do need validation from other women.