As far as citations go, I'd like to see one for Kennedy actually trying to humiliate Khrushchev.
Sorry, I apologise. I didn't mean that Kennedy was trying to personally humiliate Krushchev (though he ultimately did). Kennedy was trying to get the Soviets to accept what appeared to be humiliating terms; a public unconditional surrender. Why did he refuse Russia's initial offer of October 26 and insist instead on
secret rather than public reduction of the Turkish missiles (the deal that was ultimately done?)
"Later [on Saturday], accepting a proposal from Dean Rusk, [John F.] Kennedy instructed his
brother to tell Ambassador Dobrynin that while there could be no bargain over the missiles that had been supplied to Turkey, the president himself was determined to have them removed and would attend to the matter once the present crisis was resolved—as long as no one in Moscow called that action part of a bargain"
http://www.gwu.edu/~nsarchiv/nsa/cuba_mis_cri/moment.htm"Concerned as we all were by the cost of a public bargain struck under pressure at the apparent expense of the Turks..."
"To announce now a unilateral decision by the president of the USA to withdraw missile bases from Turkey—this would damage the entire structure of NATO and the US position as the leader of NATO, where, as the Soviet government knows very well, there are many arguments. In short. if such a decision were announced now it would seriously tear apart NATO..."
This is obvious nonsense. Turkey was not threatened by the Soviet Union, it had no need for nuclear weapons on its soil. It was well under the US nuclear shield, with or without obsolete missiles the Americans were planning to remove in any case. NATO was never based on the unilateral right of American to place nuclear weapons aimed at the Soviets.
Of course, the Warsaw Pact would not be 'torn apart' by a much worse, public, deal for the Cubans (which was threatened by the US, and was not under the Soviet defence shield). Because America.
http://www.foreignaffairs.com/articles/138175/james-a-nathan-and-graham-allison/the-cuban-missile-crisis-revisited?page=show"If these were the lessons that Kennedy drew, then why did he keep his concession on the missiles in Turkey a secret? Too many students of foreign policy imagine countries as moving pieces on the chessboard of international politics alone. Rarely do they remember former U.S. Speaker of the House Tip O'Neill's adage, "All politics is local." Applied to international affairs, O'Neill's maxim can serve as a reminder that U.S. presidents have to play three-dimensional chess. Every move on the horizontal board against an international adversary simultaneously moves a piece on the vertical board of domestic politics. While mistakes on the international chessboard can have major consequences for the world, blunders on the domestic chessboard can remove the leader in question from both games entirely. Kennedy kept the missile concession a secret, as many shrewd politicians would, to protect his seat at the domestic chessboard."
http://www.historytoday.com/john-swift/cuban-missile-crisis"Kennedy certainly came out of the crisis with a reputation greatly enhanced in the west. Khrushchev, for his part, was deemed by his colleagues to have suffered a humiliation, and the crisis was one of the issues that led to his being deposed in October 1964."
You get a whole lot of votes if you manage to make the other guy 'suffer a national humiliation' don't you?