Okay, looks good so far, the definition of "bi" should probably say "toward
two or more genders" but that might be a mistake...
ELI ELI LAMA SABACHTHANI. The problem with most of these is that they describe
how someone experiences sexual/romantic attraction, not
what they're attracted to (i.e. their actual sexuality.)
- Abro: because of course someone "having different preferences at different times in your life" is its own sexuality!
- Akoi/Lith: so basically it's a sexuality based on the middle school phenomenon of having a crush on someone but feeling like you would just LITERALLY DIE if they found out about it.
- Aphothi: 3edgy5me. Or just super boring.
- Autochoris: "Doesn't want to be a pornstar" is now a sexual orientation! (Yes, I know it was worded badly but it's literally just "asexual with a libido" or "faps when bored.)
- Cetero:
You can't tell if someone is nonbinary just by looking at them and suddenly feeling attracted to someone who says they're nb is fetishizing. Or it means "thinks (other) fourteen-year-olds with brightly colored undercuts are hot". - Cupio: Why would you want a relationship with someone you're not attracted to? Needing someone to kiss the booboos to your ego and demonize/canonize when they leave? That's not an orientation, that's a personality disorder.
- Demi: "I only want to date/fuck people I know well" congratulations you fuckwit, that's called "making good decisions about who you date/fuck" Jesus H. Christ are you even trying.
- Fray: So you lose interest in someone as soon as you get to know them (and they can't live up to the fantasy of them you ad in your head when you had a crush on them)? That's called "emotional immaturity" you psuedo-oppressed fuckwits.
- Gray: Okay, this one has the potential to be legit, but it's usually used to mean "I'm asexual and thus Oppressed but I also love drooling over various usually-mediocre celebrities so I'll just say I'm grey-ace and screech loudly when people call me on my bullshit."
- Placio: If we (the lgbt+ community) are going to include people solely on what they prefer to do in bed and not who they prefer to do it with, we really don't have a leg to stand on when excluding cishet kinksters/race fetishists/chubby chasers/whoever's trying to jump the fence this week.
- Poly: So, attraction to two or more genders but not necessarily all of them... If only we already had a word for that with an established history and community... hmm... it's too bad there isn't already a word for that (like, oh, I don't know, bisexual.)
- Quoi: 3sparkly5me. Or just questioning.
- Recipro: I don't really have anything to say about this except that yet again it's a term describing how and not to whom someone experiences attraction.
- Requies: "I'm so sick of all the drama and effort and emotional maturity that comes with relationships" yeah that's nice Brooklynn are you making my iced caramel macchiato or nah.
- Hetero/Homoflexable: Otherwise known as bisexuality (or possibly "straight only when sober/bi and in denial"). Seriously, even if somebody's 90% attracted to men and 10% attracted to women (or vice versa) they're still bi.
Now let's move on to gender bullshit!
*sighs deeply* This is gonna suck, isn't it? Because we're not allowed to call anyone's experiences "invalid" even if they're making shit up for attention? Or point out the difference between gender and gender presentation?
Hello darkness, my old friend...- Agender: This one's actually legit, but it refers to people who experience dysphoria relating to having primary/secondary sex characteristics at all, rather than "hmm I'm not super-duper girly or super-duper dudebro I must not have a gender at all".
- Alia/Apora: One step away from "meta-enby" or whatever it was from a few pages back. Just say you're nonbinary (if you're not a troll) or sparklegender (if you are) and be done with it.
- Androgyne: A presentation, not a gender.
- Bigender: Also has the possibility of being legit, but is more commonly used to mean "I like ballet AND baseball, and that somehow prevents me from being cis!" At least in my experience, bigender people seem unusually chill in comparison to other nb folk.
- Cisgender: What most of the people on this godforsaken list actually are. Doesn't experience social or gender dysphoria (lucky bastards).
- Demigender: Otherwise known as "what cis people say they are in order to call themselves trans and annoy the hell out of trans people". Usually takes the form of "afab demigirl", with other variations being much more rare.
- Genderfluid: Has the potential to be legit, but usually isn't. Usually afab, usually non-dysphoric (i.e. cis), usually annoying.
- Genderflux: The same thing as genderfluid, usually.
- Graygender: Going by tumblr logic: demi-enby. Going by actual logic: questioning/confused.
- Intergender: Why do we need a word for "intersex and non-binary"? How much overlap can there possibly be?
- Pangender: [sjw]Friendly reminder that some genders are for PoC only and identifying with a PoC gender if you're white is triggering and racist and makes you literal garbage!!!!![/sjw]
- Polygender: How many genders can one person conceivably have? I only have one and the surrounding nonsense is exhausting, these people must be on crack or something to juggle having twenty seven genders simultaneously. (Actually...)
- Transgender: Someone who doesn't identify as their assigned-at-birth gender due to gender dysphoria. Accept no substitutes.
- Trigender: Theoretically possible, but can't possibly be common.
I actually have more to say on this subject, but I have to get ready for work right now so don't blow up too much of the forum while I'm gone.
