Maybe this should be in Confessions or Flame and Burn, or maybe it deserves its own thread, but it's still a question and this is the "Ask FQA" thread, so I'm asking it.
Whenever normal people plan an event, they ask their friends to show up at a time/place, and said friends say "Sure!" and show up. At least 10 people usually show up.
When I ask the same thing, only a few people respond, usually with "I have to do this this this and this and I have no time for that." I then have to spend a whole week wrestling with people's schedules to get 4 or 5 people to be there, and invariably only wind up with 3-4 after someone backed out of the event at the last second due to work/school/other schedule-related excuses.
Example: I want to get people to come to an event with me in November. It is late September. I contact 10 different people I know and explain what's going on, giving them plenty of time to schedule things in advance. As the time draws near, everyone says they are very sorry and can't make it because they're busy that weekend. But they hope everyone else I invited has a good time. I go to the event without any of the people I invited and find another person there has brought a friend. I ask how he arranged that. He says "I asked him a few days before the event and he said yes." (Actual example from high school)
I don't know why this is. I have asked many people why this is. The only response I have gotten is "We do things spontaneously. You can't make long-term plans with us because we do everything spontaneously and never actually plan things out." Yet this is bullshit because whenever I take their advice and schedule things spontaneously, they object and say they have planned this this this this and this and my thing interferes with their plans. Plans. That they made. While simultaneously denying they ever make plans.
The only explanation I can think of that would cover everything sounds completely paranoid. It would seem that nobody actually wants to be around me, but they're too polite to just say it. Instead they invent fake schedules to avoid being around me. Whenever I do successfully get a small group together, it is only because I have planned around their bullshit to the point where the only other option for them would be to say they hate me, and because they're too polite to do so, they grudgingly give up and come anyway. This would imply that literally everyone hates me, though, and I really hope that isn't the case.
What is going on here, really?