pronouns are pronouns. you don’t identifiy as a set of pronouns. non binary ppl using gendered pronouns doesn’t mean that they’re no longer non-binary because they don’t identify as their pronouns. i’m agender. I use he/him/his pronouns. doesn’t make me fucking male because i don’t identify as my pronouns lol. i identify as agender and i expect ppl to respect the pronouns that make me feel the most comfortable. i’m still agender.
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language is constantly changing? there’s no reason that neopronouns aren’t valid bc gender is not just male/female/non-binary? non-binary identities have been around for ages and there’s no reason to not let language evolve, and shoving all non-binary identities under one set of pronouns is laughable.
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the only people i’ve seen use nounself pronouns are non-binary trans people? trying to be more comfortable when they’re not comfortable with he/she/they? sometimes they’re otherkin, but they’re always trans in that case. cis otherkin using them obviously isn’t acceptable but neopronouns/nounself pronouns have nothing to do with otherkin in the first place, they’re for non binary ppl to feel comfortable with themselves. the idea that there’s just one set of pronouns for an entire fucking range of genders is laughable at best and acting like it’s a crime to not be comfortable with pronouns “acceptable” to you is ridiculous. neopronouns =/= cis otherkin.
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yes, because i’m trans, you fuck. i’m not a goddamn cis person, and I don’t use neopronouns, but it’s not hard to allow non-binary people to experiment with language and be themselves! wow! a novel concept!
for people who “don’t care about pronouns” you sure do care a whole lot when someone doesn’t fit your idea of what a trans person is.
Every quirk needs its own pronoun. Unless you're cis. Cis don't get individualized pronouns because you're in the binary, even if you don't like the pronouns. Only nonbinaries get to be dissatisfied with existing pronouns, even gender-neutral ones.
It also seems that the explanation for the use of nounself pronouns keeps changing; first it was so otherkin could identify as their species, then it was something about religion, now it's "all about being a non-binary gender, and has nothing to do with actually identifying as the pronoun". You know what it sounds like to me? It sounds like these people are now claiming "nonbinary" because it's the most "plausible" excuse. "Oh, I don't think I'm a transcat, I just don't fit in the gender binary, and there's a million different nonbinary genders, so 'they' just won't do at all. I need my own pronoun that specifically fits my unique gender, or I'll get super uncomfortable. Cat/catself please." This ignores the fact that they could have people refer to them in the third person, which some languages do, instead of assigning a unique label to their unique "gender".
I'm also starting to hate "language is constantly evolving!" because it seems like it's used more to excuse pulling random shit out of your ass and calling it 'valid' instead of the natural progression of language. I don't think
Frindle was meant to be taken as nonfiction.
