They were removed both from ME1 and ME2. It is a shame undoubtedly; moreover they managed to fend off the Fox News outrage over the sex scene in 1 very well, so one wonders why couldn't they have done the same for the same sex romances...
But they will be available in ME3. The community has an issue, however, with some rumors that the implementation of the m/m gay romance might be very limited - one, albeit exclusively gay, option. I really hope that is not the case, and to hell with the icky factor straight teenaged males have about the possibility that Kaidan may not be quite heterosexual (they probably killed him off on Virmire anyway!).