can you be more explicit? i can't seem to grasp what you're getting at.
i've got a pen and paper rpg that's set in post-apocalyptia and things like cannibalism, homosexuality, and bloodsports are common practices. hell, one "race" of those people are to a t polyamorous, forming clans instead of families. another race is so patriarchal as to mirror saudi arabia. that doesn't mean that me and my friends are sociopathic misogynists. we enjoy that universe precisely because it puts our worldview on its head. (that and because we've got a running game of genealogy that borders on the surrealistic thanks to the in-game concepts of filiation). but yeah, it's mostly about it being so "out-there" that we enjoy this group thought excercise.
A'ight, I'm gone and I'm back. I speedwrite, and my loose leaf's my launch pad.
First off, no, your thing isn't what I'm talking about. I get the appeal of making characters go through horrible things (I am an RPer, after all XD), and from my point of view, misogyny and the like can have a narrative purpose if used right. I also like thought experiments of the "horrible, but narratively compelling" variety.
But here's the thing, condensed into a pithy Tumblr-style dialogue:
person: this episode of <show> is transphobic because the humour mostly and unironically consists of "hahaha this masculine-looking person is doing something associated with femininity, that's the punchline, that's the joke"
jackass: um actually it's NOT transphobic because in-universe the character...
See what I mean? There's even a video about it.