I have no idea when the phrase actually appeared, but I'm guessing it was during a time where condoms were less frequently used and STDs were running wild. If you're not using protection and you have sex with people who also never used protection, then yeah, you could be sleeping with everyone that person ever slept with, in the sense that you could contract all sorts of lovely diseases that have been passed down the chain. But I'd like to think most people are smarter than that. Of course, there are STDs that are asymptomatic, so people could pass the disease on unknowingly, as well.
I'm guessing I framed it poorly. I'm mainly wondering why these people think sex outside of marriage automatically makes you a diseased slut.
Where did this whole "If you sleep with them you're sleeping with everyone they've slept with" thing come from?
I'm guessing I framed it poorly. I'm mainly wondering why these people think sex outside of marriage automatically makes you a diseased slut.People trying to push abstinence only BS. It is the warping of calculated risk percentages when engaging in safer sex. (http://goaskalice.columbia.edu/condoms-protect-against-hiv) Disingenuous scum try to assign fear to an act of sex be encouraging mutual distrust among partners. It always boils down to “How much do you really know about your partner and his/her partner(s)?” I have seen this being pushed in high schools.
I have no idea when the phrase actually appeared, but I'm guessing it was during a time where condoms were less frequently used and STDs were running wild. If you're not using protection and you have sex with people who also never used protection, then yeah, you could be sleeping with everyone that person ever slept with, in the sense that you could contract all sorts of lovely diseases that have been passed down the chain. But I'd like to think most people are smarter than that. Of course, there are STDs that are asymptomatic, so people could pass the disease on unknowingly, as well.
Sleepy said it but I was gonna be an ass and suggest something like 'six degrees of Kevin Bacon' or 'the Our Chart (it's an L Word reference how long has it been since I've used an L Word reference?)'.
I do know that I've been seeing commercials recently that are insisting people wear condoms even if their STD/STI symptoms aren't showing. As Sleepy said, asymptomatic does not mean you're cured or you can't give the disease to someone else.
I have no idea when the phrase actually appeared, but I'm guessing it was during a time where condoms were less frequently used and STDs were running wild. If you're not using protection and you have sex with people who also never used protection, then yeah, you could be sleeping with everyone that person ever slept with, in the sense that you could contract all sorts of lovely diseases that have been passed down the chain. But I'd like to think most people are smarter than that. Of course, there are STDs that are asymptomatic, so people could pass the disease on unknowingly, as well.I know it goes back at least as far as the beginning of the AIDS epidemic because I remember hearing that line in my sex ed. classes which just happened to coincide with people starting to get really worried about the disease and the fact that if you got it, you died. Period.
Abstinence makes the heartgrow fondergo yonder.
I'm guessing I framed it poorly. I'm mainly wondering why these people think sex outside of marriage automatically makes you a diseased slut.
"Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free?" - Red Foreman.I'm guessing I framed it poorly. I'm mainly wondering why these people think sex outside of marriage automatically makes you a diseased slut.
I guess it's the whole "back in my day" thing, where women were much more stigmatized if they were caught screwing around unwed. I'm not sure if women back then were more frequently told that premarital sex was wrong, or that it would lead to disease, or a combination of the two. But people will always find ways to push abstinence, despite the utter bullshit that it is.
...and a much more irritating diatribe on morality never changing.
See, when they taught this in my sex ed class, they were just trying to get us to wear condoms.
That was my experience, though the safety of abstinence was stressed a bit. I don't mind that so much, since they did at least explain how various forms of birth control and STD protection work.See, when they taught this in my sex ed class, they were just trying to get us to wear condoms.
Same here. Apart from one religious group, all sex-education I've gotten has been about safe sex. Everyone is quick to point out that it is totally ok not to have sex before you get married but if you do have sex then you should either use a condom or have a monogamous relationship. (Although it is suggested even then to go to a medical checkup with the boy/girl so that you both are checked for STD's.)
To be fair, abstinence does work. It is a viable option if the kids have that kind of self-control. Some of 'em do. It just becomes a problem when it's the only method taught.This is something that should be hammered into the heads of every fundy that tries to tamper with sex education.
To be fair, abstinence does work. It is a viable option if the kids have that kind of self-control. Some of 'em do. It just becomes a problem when it's the only method taught.I seem to remember a study that showed that teaching abstinence-only actually led to more cases of STDs than any other type of sex education (even worse than not actually having any sex ed). Which would be pretty understandable : teens aren't known for their self-control, after all (pretty much the opposite...).
I'd probably be a complete manslut if I cared more about getting laid.
Like, I love it and want it and all. I just don't really suffer from sexual frustration at all, so I've gone for literally multiple years with no sex and I'm still perfectly fine. Most people who hear about my sex life think that I must be about ready to explode or treat me with a similar tone that you'd use with someone who recently lost a limb.
Same with me being single so much. A girl (who, I should point out for posterity, has had two kids with two different guys in the past 2 years and is still going from guy to guy until they get scared off) was trying to advise me to use various methods to pick up chicks at work that would get me fired near-instantly until I finally told her "I'm really not as broken up about being single as you seem to think I am."
I remember having to sign a paper saying I wouldn't have sex until marriage. We did have a lesson on protection though.That was my experience, though the safety of abstinence was stressed a bit. I don't mind that so much, since they did at least explain how various forms of birth control and STD protection work.See, when they taught this in my sex ed class, they were just trying to get us to wear condoms.
Same here. Apart from one religious group, all sex-education I've gotten has been about safe sex. Everyone is quick to point out that it is totally ok not to have sex before you get married but if you do have sex then you should either use a condom or have a monogamous relationship. (Although it is suggested even then to go to a medical checkup with the boy/girl so that you both are checked for STD's.)
I remember having to sign a paper saying I wouldn't have sex until marriage. We did have a lesson on protection though.That was my experience, though the safety of abstinence was stressed a bit. I don't mind that so much, since they did at least explain how various forms of birth control and STD protection work.See, when they taught this in my sex ed class, they were just trying to get us to wear condoms.
Same here. Apart from one religious group, all sex-education I've gotten has been about safe sex. Everyone is quick to point out that it is totally ok not to have sex before you get married but if you do have sex then you should either use a condom or have a monogamous relationship. (Although it is suggested even then to go to a medical checkup with the boy/girl so that you both are checked for STD's.)
Masturbation isn't satisfying in the same way, but I agree that lack of sex doesn't automatically equal frustration.What Sleepy said. Though my two year dry spell, pardon the pun, seems to be going to my head. Having a campus job, where I'm surrounded by 18y/o girls (which feels so, so wrong now that I'm 23), is not helping matters. It's manageable for the most part, but there is a slowly growing frustration that's a little uncomfortable to deal with.
To be fair, abstinence does work. It is a viable option if the kids have that kind of self-control. Some of 'em do. It just becomes a problem when it's the only method taught.I seem to remember a study that showed that teaching abstinence-only actually led to more cases of STDs than any other type of sex education (even worse than not actually having any sex ed). Which would be pretty understandable : teens aren't known for their self-control, after all (pretty much the opposite...).
Also, fuck slut shaming. I'm 26, I've had more than 50 partners, and some of my best sex has been with a girl 4 years my junior who makes me look like a frikkin prude. I love sluts. My best friends and my best lovers (both boys and girls) are sluts.
Abstinence makes the heart grow fonder.No, it makes the church grow fondlers.
My sexual frustration amounts to not being able to find any good wank material that I haven't seen before.Motherless.com. Avoid the stuff that scares you, though.
It has a wide selection but that also means that unless you are an omnivore* when it comes to porn you'll also come across plenty of stuff you don't like.Yeah, pretty much. Although, you can normally avoid stuff you don't like, because it's normally evident via the thumbnail (it moves and cycles if you hover over it).
*Please note that in this particular sentence, I wasn't referring to "vore" porn.
Motherless actually isn't the bastion of pedophilia that some people seem to think it is. They let all sorts of weird shit onto the site, but they remove anything illegal (especially child pornography) and report it to the authorities. They can be so fast about removing content that you can find dead links on the front page.Exactly. They're like ninjas of porn. Assassinating crime wherever it is erected.
That said, they ONLY remove stuff that's illegal. All sorts of shit, including the shit-related shit, is available on there for just about any fetish or depravity. It can be a bit of a minefield.
You should see my roomate. Make me look like an amateur.To be fair, abstinence does work. It is a viable option if the kids have that kind of self-control. Some of 'em do. It just becomes a problem when it's the only method taught.I seem to remember a study that showed that teaching abstinence-only actually led to more cases of STDs than any other type of sex education (even worse than not actually having any sex ed). Which would be pretty understandable : teens aren't known for their self-control, after all (pretty much the opposite...).
Also, fuck slut shaming. I'm 26, I've had more than 50 partners, and some of my best sex has been with a girl 4 years my junior who makes me look like a frikkin prude. I love sluts. My best friends and my best lovers (both boys and girls) are sluts.
Fifty partners? I'm impressed. =)
Fun fact: Laci Green once playfully called me a whore for having sixteen sexual partners. =)
Why don't you just ask for pics and a number while you're at it?Could we have pics and a number? ;D