Strap-ons might do the trick. I like boobs, too, so you don't have to bind your chest. Shane can provide the masculine psychology, and also wear a strap-on (or if he decides to transition, that's cool, too). We'll just have to all marry each other in different districts, because of the whole polygamy thing, and then we can have some kind of awesome three-way marriage that will make Ironbite's head explode.
Both of his heads.