You're right. I shouldn't be doing this, it's not fair for anyone. However, there are times when I'm scared of confrontation, especially against people I like or feel like I share a sense of community with. That's not an excuse or a justification, I still know that it's shitty; it's just an explanation for why I'm so bad at this.
But you're right. From now on, I'll try to be better about confronting people directly. I apologize to you, Queen and Dakota, and I thank you for bringing this up. I'm not gonna go into the thread to repeat myself as I feel I've already said my piece, but in the future I'll do my best to not be this pathetic.