I don't agree that it's erasing queer identity.
But it sure as hell pisses me off, considering that most gay-centric movies/series tend to focus on the "alternative lifestyle" part of gay culture (and these are supposed to be PRO gay) and, apparently for all forms of media, we can't just have a normal story that happens to have a gay male lead. Nope, it has to entirely revolve around his different sexuality.
For once I'd like to play an RPG where the male lead happens to fancy other men and this is treated exactly the same as any other romance subplot, aside from cultural implications.
Then again I'd like an RPG with a gay male lead period. Or at least bisexual with a male option that wasn't raised in a prostitution environment.