Now, can we try to learn to get over it and assume that most here are good people with good intentions and try to find common ground?
Honestly, this pretty much describes my main beef with UP here. Well, I certainly wouldn't say that most people are "good with good intentions" since I'm an incorrigible cynic, but you get the idea.
People who feel the need to express their frustration about a celebrity that refuses to explicitly identify with their cause are
not "fanatics" and "the worst of social justice". This kind of irrational tribalistic behavior is so commonplace
everywhere that it is absolutely pointless to single out a group for practicing it. Meanwhile, as you said, openly misandrist thinkers like Dworkin who put their toxic rhetoric on print are better examples of "bad feminism" than some girl who went verbally berserk during an encounter with an abrasive bunch of ideological opponents. So much for him being critical of "callout culture"...