Translation: "Edgy jokes are a Big Fucking DealTM and you should call out your friends for doing something that doesn't hurt anything except the feelings of people who may not even be present. Also, jokes with friends are morally equivalent to sexual harassment."
Where does she say the jokes are just between friends? If your friends are making these jokes and don't do so recognizing their wrong then it clearly a sign of a bigger problem.
Except there are a lot of rape victims who tell rape jokes as a coping mechanism.
You do know why Jewish people get a pass telling Jewish jokes right, or why African Americans don't come off as insulting when they call their mates the N word? It's because they aren't punching down so much as sideways.
Except, as I've already demonstrated, not even that is okay with these people.
As for punches and the direction thereof, there are serious flaws with the argument. The main problem with the "punching up/down" rhetoric is that anybody can convince themselves they're punching up. For example, Swedish racists have convinced themselves that immigrants are a privileged group, so in their mind, they're "punching up" when they joke about how white feminists need to be "culturally enriched."
Things get even murkier when intersectionality comes into play. For example:
Would you consider this "punching up" or "punching down?"
More to the point, there's a difference between being passionate and being needlessly offensive. It's not "tone policing" to ask somebody to be less hateful. What I'm talking about is content, not tone. I don't really mind if social justice activists get loud, or angry, or even profane. My problem comes when they start being outright hateful.
UP having a problem with the content of what the eeevil SJWs say? Would you prefer they not say such hateful things would you prefer they *hoarse whisper* self censor?
Oh, I recognize their right to say it. I'm not going to try and pressure them to stop saying it. But it needs to be recognized that I have every right to criticize them saying it.
The difference is that particle physics are a matter of objective fact.
It's objectively true that lots of people are different from one another. You know, some poor, some rich, some black, some white, some never having experienced rape others less lucky. What's your point?
My point is that lived experiences are no substitute for hard evidence.